Friday, March 06, 2015


A guy named Dylan writes:

You haven't come to the realization that many highly functional people smoke weed, drink, etc. Some of them are even more successful than yourself.
Pop the bubble you call a reality and wake up to the fact that drinking doesn't always mean alcoholism and smoking drugs doesn't always mean crippling addiction. Many more people than you could ever realize do drugs without you even knowing.

My reply:

AARGGHHH OH I JUST CAN'T BELIEVE IT! You must be the 200th Internet person just this week to tell me about the highly functional, successful people who smoke "weed" and drink alcohol! This is one of the main reasons I have been forced to continue speaking up about these things all these years, is because you guys always accuse me of thinking that anybody who smokes pot or drinks alcohol is a stupid, good-for-nothing lazy bum who will never amount to anything and who goes out and kills people and who is addicted. NOBODY THINKS THAT! Doesn't it even OCCUR to you guys that we are against pot and alcohol because it is a mind-altering drug??? Pot smokers ADMIT to us all the time online that they use it to get high, stoned, buzzed, relax, have "fun", enjoy life, etc. We BELIEVE them when they tell us why they use it and how it affects them! And that is why we are against it! That is what makes it wrong! We shouldn't use mind-altering drugs for these reasons! This is good morals and just plain common sense! What parent would ever raise their kids to grow up and get high on POT? At any age? And it is AGAINST THE LAW! Parents have to tell their kids to obey the law! No parent wants to bail their child out of jail and have them face a stern, harsh judge who treats them like dirt! No parent wants their child to have to pay a huge fine, and lose their college scholarship or job opportunities because they have a record! If you were a parent, wouldn't you feel the same way? But even if pot were legal, I sure don't know anybody who would raise their kids to think it is okay to grow up and get high on drugs! At any age! Can't you see this?? And the same holds true for alcohol! Alcohol is a drug! Just because it's legal doesn't make it right! A casual booze drinker is no better than a casual pot smoker, except they aren't breaking the law! They are after the same psychoactive effect, that "buzz" one gets from a mind-altering drug! And that is not good! A grown adult should set an example and not drink OR smoke pot! And we will NEVER get the pot smokers to understand why it is wrong and immature to use mind-altering drugs recreationally, when grown adults think nothing of using a mind-altering drug in the form of alcohol. Pot smokers' number one excuse is, "Pot is safer than alcohol." I have said over and over that we shouldn't use EITHER of these things! How hard is that?

It just drives me nuts that you guys always think we're against pot because we think it's all dangerous and addictive and "ruins your life." If you had read my book which has been online for years, and any of my thousands of comments, you would know all about how the only people I knew in college who smoked pot were my roommate and her friends, who were all nice, studious, well-dressed young ladies (who went to church, even), and my brother-in-law, who was a straight A Eagle Scout! But that makes it WORSE that they smoked pot, because they of ALL people should have known better. Their parents would have killed them if they had found out, and they were lucky they never got caught by the police! But they all STOPPED smoking pot after they graduated. They GREW UP. They got good jobs, raised families, and are all nice, decent citizens--grandparents, even. Smoking pot was just an immature thing they did in college out of peer pressure, afraid they'd be called a goody goody.

But can't you see my point?? Yes I know that many nice, successful people smoke or smoked pot. But that makes it WORSE. Because they of ALL people should know better! They set a terrible example and go against everything that most parents try to teach their kids about drugs and life! And what are parents supposed to tell their kids? "Okay Suzie, you go out and get high all you wish, because there are nice, successful, productive people who smoke pot, and that makes it okay! And who cares if you get busted? Just tell the judge that you get good grades and that people like Carl Sagan and President Obama smoked pot, and you'll be sure to be set free!" IT DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY! Don't you get it? Again, what parent would EVER raise their kids to think it is EVER okay to smoke pot--at any age?? Most parents try to raise their kids with morals, values and common sense to know that this is wrong and just plain immature.

And I know many of these same parents who would NEVER smoke pot because "drugs are bad" think nothing of using a mind-altering drug in the form of alcohol. But alcohol is a drug! A casual booze drinker is no better than a casual pot smoker, except they aren't breaking the law! Yet alcohol is promoted and glorified everywhere you turn, and people think it is okay because it is legal. I used to talk to a guy online who was the nicest guy you'd ever want to meet; he and his wife had four beautiful kids, they were active in their church, and just so nice. They would NEVER smoke pot. Heaven's no. But he told me once that he would bring his wife wine and cheese for a romantic evening. And when I tried to explain to him that alcohol is a drug, and that this is no different than a casual pot smoker lighting up to get high and buzzed, he just couldn't understand it. I even brought up about the health risks of alcohol, but it was like talking to a wall. We will NEVER get the pot smokers to understand why it's wrong and immature to use mind-altering drugs recreationally, as long as nice, decent people like that couple think nothing of using a mind-altering drug in the form of alcohol recreationally. And there are MILLIONS of people just like them in the world. Nice, decent, successful people who would NEVER smoke pot, yet they think nothing of using alcohol--the guys feel they have to drink beer to be a man, the women have to sip their "fine wine" to be social and romantic, etc. It shouldn't be that way! People need to grow up and set an example!

And I have explained over and over about how I am a convert to the Mormon church and we have what we believe to be direct revelation from God saying that alcohol, tea, coffee, cigarettes and mind-altering drugs like marijuana are not for the body. We are taught the moral and physical reasons to avoid using these things. This HELPS us. It is good to understand why we shouldn't use mind-altering drugs like alcohol or marijuana to have "fun". That is not what TRUE fun is! But you shouldn't have to be Mormon or even religious to know this. It is just common sense! My whole point is that a grown adult should be WELL PAST the age where they would want to use a mind-altering drug recreationally.

Oh it just drives me nuts that you guys always accuse me of thinking that anybody who smokes pot is addicted and some kind of loser bum, and that anybody who drinks alcohol is a raging alcoholic. NOBODY THINKS THAT. I have explained over and over that if someone told me they had a few sips of wine at a wedding once every five years, I would be saying the same thing! I would have more sympathy for a raging alcoholic than a casual drinker! At least the alcoholic has an excuse; they are addicted and hopefully will get help. But casual drinkers, just like casual pot smokers, have no excuse. They can't even see why it is wrong and just plain immature to use mind-altering drugs recreationally. Can't you see my point?

Again, this is why I have been forced to continue speaking up against pot and alcohol all these years, is because of comments like yours. And I must receive them 50 times a day. It is just so frustrating! I never even THOUGHT about pot before all this. But boy have you guys opened my eyes. Now I realize we all need to speak up against pot AND alcohol even MORE, just to EDUCATE you guys! And you think that WE need to be educated! That's why we need to educate YOU! 


Thorn105 said...

Youre a self righteous moron who really needs to live your own life the way you choose and allow others the same. You spend your time and energy tell8ng people whats wrong with them, well YOU are a judgemental bitch.

Cindybin said...

Thorn, Oh okay, I will ALLOW others to live their own life the way they choose. Here all this time I thought I could control everyone on the planet! Thanks for the advice. You are the first person to ever tell me this! I have seen the light.

Have a good day!

jasonedward said...

Cindy, it really is such a shame that you chose to radically insult thorn.

I really wish you could see the light. Your sadness is overwhelming to empathic people like me.

Cindybin said...

Oh yes, I insulted thorn. He didn't insult me at all!

Anonymous said...

weed causes antisocial behavior and damages ur health. It will make u lose all ur money and make u homeless. Even worse it may lead to behavioral faults like homosexuality and make you a serial killer/masturbator.

Smoke more ciggerettes and less marijuana as its legal and will improve ur health.

Thank you for and excellent and factual blog

Anonymous said...

I came here from a youtube video where you were telling people not to swear. You peaked my interest since I have never seen anyone quite like you in youtube comments before. So, let's have a polite discussion, shall we?

Here's what it really comes down to. I respect your right to believe what you wish, and to follow the tenants of your faith. But I don't believe in them, and you don't respect my right not to believe. We're giving each other vastly different levels of respect here. You seem to think because you believe these things, they should apply to me and to everyone, and that's just right unfair isn't it?

You say not swearing and not drinking are common sense. Anybody knows not to do them. No decent person would do such a thing, etc. And yet you know decent, successful people who did them and nothing bad happened. It's "wrong" but not by any objective standard. Not based on any facts. Only by the tenants of your faith is it wrong. What of the people who don't share your beliefs? People who understand what you're saying (altering your mind in any way is bad), but they just flat-out don't agree with it? You really expect them to put your beliefs ahead of their own? Why? Would you do it for them? Would you march with me to support gay marriage? I'd love to have you. I already know you wouldn't march with me to support marijuana legalization, even though I think it's an important issue worth fighting for for reasons that effect the economy, the prison system, law enforcement, and the well-being of children. Did you know it's easier for kids to get marijuana than alcohol, precisely because it's illegal? Did you also know that although it's been shown to be harmless for adults, smoking marijuana while your brain is still developing can have lasting negative effects? Sure sucks that it's illegal and so easy for kids to get, doesn't it?

Most religion seems to operate this way, treating the unfaithful as second class citizens incapable or unworthy of governing their own lives. There's no mutual respect. Mormons are (usually) much better at it than most. I've met quite a few and they never seemed intent on getting me not to swear or drink, even though they themselves didn't. They just lived their lives, and I lived mine, and I was good friends with two of them for a while.

So far the only religion that really gets it right, in my opinion, is Jainism:

Here's a quote directly from the article.

"The second main principle of Jainism is non-absolutism (anēkāntavāda). For Jains, non-absolutism means maintaining open-mindedness. This includes the recognition of all perspectives and a humble respect for differences in beliefs. Jainism encourages its adherents to consider the views and beliefs of their rivals and opposing parties. Proponents of anekāntavāda apply this principle to religion and philosophy, reminding themselves that any religion or philosophy—even Jainism—which clings too dogmatically to its own tenets, is committing an error based on its limited point of view.

Anekāntavāda emphasizes the principles of pluralism (multiplicity of viewpoints) and the notion that truth and reality are perceived differently from diverse points of view, no single one of which is complete.[14][15]

Jains illustrate this theory through the parable of the blind men and an elephant. In this story, each blind man feels a different part of an elephant: its trunk, leg, ear, and so on. All of them claim to understand and explain the true appearance of the elephant but, due to their limited perspectives, can only partly succeed."

Okay, that's it. Simply wanted to leave you some things to think about. Consider another viewpoint like the Jains and all that. I hope you have a nice life. Don't let the jerks get you down. It's not weird at all that you collect dolls. Also, you have adorable cats. They're so sweet for letting you put birthday hats on them =)